MIAMI - The legal custodian of missing foster child Rilya Wilson testified Monday that she suspected the worst when the girl abruptly disappeared in late 2000 but did not contact police or child welfare officials because she was afraid of taking the blame.
Pamela Graham, 48, also told jurors she never reported abuse involving the 4-year-old girl — including being tied to a bed with her wrists in plastic restraints — because she feared her live-in lover and the girl's main caretaker, Geralyn Graham, who is on trial for murder in Rilya's disappearance.
"I mean it's not something that I'm proud of, but at that point in my life, I was weak and I just -- I did not like confrontation, and as I stated previously, I mean the defendant, at that time, she just controlled every aspect of my life, and it's not that Rilya wasn't worth it, it was selfish of me, but I just didn't want to have to go through what I would've had to go through at the time," said Pamela Graham.
Pamela Graham, who is not related to Geralyn although they claimed at times to be sisters, said her companion ran their household and lashed out when her authority was challenged. Pamela Graham, however, had legal custody of Rilya and a younger sister, Rodericka.
"She was always controlling and dominant. I was just afraid her," Pamela Graham testified. Her voice frequently quavered and she dabbed at her eyes with a tissue during much of the daylong testimony. "She controlled every aspect of my life, who I dealt with, friends, who I was around, (who) she wouldn't want me to be around."
Geralyn Graham, 66, faces life in prison if convicted of first-degree murder, child abuse and kidnapping charges. Pamela Graham made a deal with prosecutors to plead guilty to child abuse and child neglect charges in return for her testimony, and likely will face no jail time.
Rilya's body has never been found and Pamela Graham said she does not know what happened to her. The girl's disappearance caused a statewide scandal because child welfare officials did not realize she was missing for some 15 months, eventually leading to changes in monitoring of foster children and other child welfare reforms.
In the fall of 2000, Pamela Graham said the relationship between Rilya and Geralyn Graham was worsening. On Halloween that year, Rilya wasn't allowed to go trick-or-treating because she insisted on wearing a Cleopatra mask instead of the angel costume that had been bought for her. A short time later, Pamela Graham said, there were scrape marks on the sides of Rilya's head where the mask had been glued on and then taken off.
Another time, Pamela Graham said she found Rilya crying in a bathtub of "extremely hot" water. Geralyn Graham told her it was punishment for wetting her bed. The bed restraints, Pamela Graham added, were to prevent Rilya from getting up at night and climbing on kitchen counters to reach sweet treats in a high cabinet.
"Sometimes it would be with a belt, and sometimes it would be with her hand. Once with a switch," said Pamela Graham. "Sometimes she would be in the laundry room two or three days. Sometimes I would tell the defendant that she had been there too long, that she needed to come out."
"Did you learn how Rilya got the burn marks on her face?" asked prosecutor Sally Weintraub.
"Yes," answered Graham.
"What did you learn?" said Weintraub.
"The defendant told me she was somehow messing around with the water heater," replied Graham.
One day in December of 2000, Pamela Graham returned from work to find Rilya gone. She said Geralyn Graham didn't offer much of an explanation.
"She said (Rilya) wasn't coming back and I wasn't going to see her anymore," Pamela Graham testified. "She just kept telling me Rilya was OK and not to worry. I thought something bad had happened."
She said the two argued heatedly, and at one point that night, she started to call police but did not when Geralyn Graham threatened her with a hammer. Yet Pamela Graham admitted having her own selfish motives for not going to authorities.
"I was scared and I knew that I was the one that had legal custody of her. I was just afraid that whatever happened to her, I would be blamed for," Pamela Graham said. "''It was selfish, I know, thinking about myself instead of her."
Eventually, Geralyn Graham said they would tell anyone who asked that a Department of Children and Families worker had taken Rilya for mental testing and never returned her.
"I asked her what are we going to do. She said, again, we would just tell her someone from DCF picked her up," said Pamela Graham.
To friends, they said she was on a trip to New York. Pamela Graham said none of it was true, but she remained silent for years.
It wasn't until May 2004 that Pamela Graham admitted to a cold case investigator that there were many lies surrounding Rilya's disappearance, including the story about a DCF worker taking the girl away. That was when she began cooperating.
"I was tired of carrying the lies I had previously told," she said.
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